Some plus size women are faced with a different set of challenges and problems because of the way they look or the way they are perceived by others. The last thing a woman wants to do is worry about her weight. So what should she do? We are going to explore the number one obstacle most plus size women face at some point in their lives. Also, we are going to make recommendations that will help plus size women conquer the fear of looking their best.First thing you should do is to give yourself a self-esteem booster shot. Countless studies have shown that women have the greatest fear of becoming fat, overweight or obese. Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean you should stop loving yourself or being proud of whom you are. From the beginning of time, it has been an uphill battle for women to understand how important it is to feel good about their lives and their roles in society. In my research and working with plus size women, these women possess the most positive and beautiful spirits ever. However, the outside appearance shows something different. I have often been told, plus size women are held to a different standard and it is extremely hard for them to find their place in society. For example, when it comes to dating, plus size women may have to take extra steps to become noticed. They have to make sure everything is just right before they will attempt to meet someone new. I am not saying smaller women do not have to face challenges; however, it is somewhat different for plus size women.
Allow me to tell you a little story. I know of this plus size lady, that hadn’t been on a date in about 4 years. This young lady was set up by a mutual friend on a blind date with what sounded like the perfect man. In preparation for the blind date, the young lady went on a two week shopping spree just to find the perfect outfit. She planned and planned every single detail of the date. Keep in mind she has yet to speak to the young man to really find out the details and the particulars of the date. Nevertheless, she would not leave anything to chance, and she kept saying to me. “I am a plus size girl that has to go a step further to make sure things is just right especially when my self-esteem is not at an all time high”. Well, I am here to say, plus size women have every right to find what makes them happy. Sometimes, our self-esteem is all we have at the moment.
Never, allow anyone to take you outside of yourself and what you stand for. Remember self-preservation is foremost. Here is one suggestion to boost your self-esteem. One day look in your closet and find an outfit that makes you feel good about yourself. This is an outfit that you know will turn heads. Take the time to go all out and spruce up yourself, with the perfect make-up, perfect shoes, and perfect hair. Plan a day out with your girlfriends or family and paint the town. When you are showered with a great attitude and your confidence is shown, people will automatically be drawn to you. This alone will boost your self-esteem and confidence. Remember, it starts with you and your attitude, you can make a difference.
